Joey & Carla Link
February 11, 2026
Why should your spouse be your best friend? God created the Garden of Eden to be a paradise. He put Adam there to care for the animals and to enjoy the plentiful food. But God saw that Adam was lonely. To fix it, He created a woman named Eve to be Adam’s helper and they were the first married couple on earth.
The Lord God said, “It is not good for man to be alone,
I will make a helper suitable for him
Genesis 2:18
A helper is someone who “aids, assists, changes for the better, improves, protects, and serves.” To understand our role as helper, we first need to understand our husband’s role as the head of the home. “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives submit to their husbands in everything.”
God knew that two people can’t be the head of the same group of people. Someone has to have the final say. One has to be appointed leader or someone will take the lead, whether by volunteering or by force. God made it easy for us by deciding it would be the man in the relationship.
A leader knows it works best if he seeks the advice and opinions of those he is leading. In a marriage relationship, both husband and wife should be making decisions together, and when a decision has to be made they don’t agree on, it is up to the husband to make it. Those of you who know us personally will readily agree both of us are strong personalities. In our marriage, after talking about it, rarely do Joey and I disagree on a decision that has to be made. I have learned to submit to him without getting angry or pouting about it. In the marriage relationship, ladies, submission is a choice. He usually says if the decision he decides on is not working, then we can change and go in a different direction. This is what friends do. While physical attraction is a great thing, it is friendship that sustains a marriage relationship over the long haul. So, let’s look at ways you can kill the friendship in your marriage. These are true of both spouses.
TOP TEN WAYS TO KILL FRIENDSHIP IN A MARRIAGE:
1. Tell an embarrassing story about your spouse in front of your friends. They will be sure and never let your spouse live it down, and your spouse will, as a result never let you forget it either. (“Love is ever ready to believe the best of every person.” 1 Corinthians 13:7)
2. Never admit that you are wrong, but be sure and rub it in your spouse’s face when he/she makes a mistake. (“Love forgets mistakes, nagging about them parts the best of friends.” Proverbs 17:9)
3. Never say you are sorry, and if you think your spouse needs to apologize to you, make it as hard on him as you possibly can. (“Pride goes before destruction and haughtiness before a fall.” Proverbs 16:18)
4. Never show your appreciation for anything your spouse does for you. (“Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.” Philippians 2:4)
You can find the other 6 things we came up with in the Mom’s Notes presentation, “Is Your Spouse Your Best Friend?”, which these were taken from.
Have you listened to these Mom’s Notes presentations?
“Is Your Spouse Your Best Friend?” – Should your spouse be your best friend? We think so. We take a look at the biblical model of submission that is required of women and what exactly it means to be a “helper”. This presentation shares ten ways to assist you in building a positive friendship relationship with your spouse and learn how not to build a negative one.
“Ten Ways to Fight Fair with Your Spouse” – Conflict is normal and to be expected in a marriage relationship. While it cannot be avoided, there are ways to handle it appropriately. This presentation discusses ten ways to fight fair with your spouse.
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#54 Making Your Spouse Your Best Friend – We say love is the glue to hold a marriage together. Discover the undergirding foundation that every relationship needs to make you best friends to work together to raise kids.
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